“ROMANCE” Those Who Are Important!by Dr. Ron Arndt
I’m married to a remarkable lady! For those of you who have been around for a while, I call her “Sweetness.”
Our 40th Anniversary is now less than 40 days from now. How do I know? My “love-muffin” (don’t puke), that I did not realize had a “romantic” bent, has reminded me of this significant date.
On June 2, just after I finished a coaching call early in the morning, my Sweetness came around the corner, still in her PJ’s/bathrobe and funny morning hair, with a BIG smile on her face and carrying a brown, stapled shut lunch-bag with “40” written on it. Now you have to know, being married to a Kindergarten teacher, our marriage has always been full of fun and wonderful surprises…and I was about to experience another one of her amazing and loving gestures (she made me feel like a kindergartner all over again). She handed the bag to me and stood in front of me and said, “Open it up” with a cute and curled smile on her beautiful face. Knowing her shenanigans, I had a suspicion what this bag with “40” written on it meant. Yet, I was conflicted as I didn’t anticipate this special moment and as I mentioned, she’s not the classical romantic. Really, my emotions immediately overtook me.
I eagerly opened the bag, having no idea what to expect other than knowing that my “bride” has done something very special for me. Inside was a bag of Riesen’s chewy, chocolate caramel covered in rich European chocolate with a note attached. I bet you want to know what the note said? Here it is: “There are soooo many Riesens why I love you!” While taken aback by this immediate moment, I immediately got up from my chair and hugged her like it was the last day of my life. She then said, “This is the beginning of a 40-day countdown to our 40th wedding anniversary…I love you…Expect something every morning to start your day with a smile.”
OMG! As she left the room, and as I wiped away my tears of amazement and appreciation, I took a couple of minutes to reflect on how important it is to share our feelings, to accept love given willingly, and marinade in gratitude. Trish has made me feel incredibly important and valued. While I feel I adorn her with love and appreciation, to receive such a gift is breathtaking.
May I end this blog from Coach Ron with a few thoughts as I get to enjoy and experience expected, but unknown, surprises up to and including July 12, our anniversary:
You know you’ve found true love when you catch yourself falling in love with the same person over and over again.
Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, and wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion; today is special.
Falling in love is not a choice. To stay in love is.
P.S. If you’d like to see a few more examples of the morning surprise gifts/notes, this link will take you there.