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I feel like I want to Congratulate Me! I survived.
I know this may sound a bit self-centered however, at the risk of creating that impression, I’m still yelling out loud that I am grateful for being alive 26 years longer than I “should” have been.
On August 7th, 1988, had it not been for my young 37-year old wife Trish & brother Scott, along with the emergency helicopter ride to the top of the Cleveland Clinic, I would have been another deceased heart attack victim at the ripe-old-age of 41!
I’m delighted for an alternative ending.
That I am alive today 26 years later is a message from GOD that there is yet something for me to do, someone to serve, love or care for. In the meantime, I feel very grateful for this special day…as well as each and every one of them!
Thank you for being in my life.
I’m ALIVE when I should have been DEAD!
I am a man of many foibles yet I somehow have been chosen to be around a little bit longer…Thank You GOD!
This week I celebrated being alive for 25 fabulous years. When I was just 41 years old, on Sunday, August 7, 1988, I survived a life-threatening heart attack that required a helicopter ride to the Cleveland Clinic and emergency angioplasty when this procedure was in its infancy.
One of the many lessons these 25 years has taught me is to never miss the opportunity to be thankful for my blessings because, in the flash-of-an-eye, it might be all over with the exception of all the shouting.
There is not much more for me to say but Thank You for all the good news that has happened in my life, including you being a subscriber or visitor to my blog. Click here to view some of the Good Things that have happened in my life over the past 25 years thanks to GOD’s blessing. All of which I would have missed had it not been for the gift of life.
What are you thankful for? Please share in the comments below, or on my facebook page.
Father’s Day was a few weeks ago and, because of the gifts my two daughters gave me, it reminded me to think of how truly significant they were to me personally. My “favorite oldest” daughter, Ashley, knows I love really funny (sometimes off-color) movies and particularly the movie,The Campaign, with Will Farrell and Zach Galifianakis. Guess what she gave Dad along with a love note? The Campaign. Brianne, my “favorite youngest” daughter, knows I cherish quiet, private time with my girls. What did she give me? Lots of hugs and “I love you Dad” along with an afternoon where we were together, bunched up on the couch while she took a nap next to Dad and I thanked GOD for my family.
Below is a communication Ashley shared with me many years ago and is worth repeating. Both my daughters recognize that, by identifying what Dad values and cherishes, they customize their gifts in the most meaningful ways.
Do you know what the word FAMILY means?
FAMILY = (F)ATHER (A)ND (M)OTHER (I) (L)OVE (Y)OU
This year marks 40 years since I graduated from THE Ohio State University College of Dentistry– exactly twenty years in clinical practice and twenty years in dental financial planning management and professional coaching.
I believe this is something to celebrate and I wanted to share this milestone. All too often in our lives, I feel we fail to take the time to simply pause and reflect on what has gone on before and to relish and marinade in the thought that we have accomplished something unique, amazing or even unsuspected. We’ve overcome obstacles; we’ve stretched ourselves; or we’ve managed to accomplish what we thought might be impossible.
By me sharing my milestone with you, I am “requesting” of you to do the same. Why not take a few minutes, right now, and reflect on where YOU need to pat yourself on the back for something you have done, are doing or plan to accomplish. Go ahead…do it right now!
Feels nice doesn’t it?
Oh, and if you want to watch the lyrics on screen while you listen to this classic Kool & The Gang tune, click on this link.
CELEBRATION…by Kool & The Gang
Celebrate good times, come on!
There’s a party goin’ on right here
Come on now, celebration
It’s time to come together
The New Year is now here and like so many others before it, the beginning of the next year is filled with all the ugliness of murder, mayhem, unhappiness, and, of course, we can’t forget the immediate memory of the debacle of the “financial cliff.” Because I believe we become what we think about most of the time, I am making a conscious decision to focus my 2013 coaching emphasis on the one thing we have control over…our attitude.
I choose the attitude of gratitude & service and want to share with you below a few poignant thoughts to help you start 2013 with several appreciation affirmations guaranteed to enhance your day, your relationships, and your affluence.
“God gave you a gift of 86 400 seconds today. Have you used one to say thank you?”
– William Arthur Ward
“Thanksgiving creates abundance.”
– Ann Voskamp
“The value we place on what we’ve been given correlates to our depth of gratitude for it.”
– Todd Stocker
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”
– William Arthur Ward
“When you express gratitude for the blessings that come into your life, it not only encourages the universe to send you more, it also sees to it that those blessings remain.”
– Stephen Richards
“Though they only take a second to say, thank you’s leave a warm feeling behind that can last for hours.”
– Kent Allan Rees, Molly Withers and the Golden Tree
When people ask me why I had to write “Killing the Practice Before It Kills You“, a how-to guide on running a successful dental practice while having more work-life balance, I explain how I wanted to help other young dentists avoid the mistakes I made.
The truth is, it wasn’t all my idea.
Writing this book came as a suggestion from my brilliant wife, Trish (My Sweetness). I had just written and published my memoirs as a gift to my two daughters. In my memoirs, I wrote about my heart attack at 41, and how it changed my outlook on business and life.
Sweetness said: “You know that story about how you killed your practice? That needs to be shared with other dentists. They can avoid making the same mistakes you did.”
Writing the book was a labor of love, because it caused me to really think through some of the mistakes I made, and also why I made the choices I did. Some of my strategies are interesting, to say the least, like why I believe you should fire all of your staff. However, it worked for me because I created a future of choice.
My hope is that enough dentists pick up the book, read it and apply half a dozen principles to their practice. I don’t see that happening, though. Most dentists will tell me that they are so smart that they already know what to do.
Are you one of them?
We dentists think we’re so smart and so invincible. We believe we can do it all on our own, because, hey, we graduated dental school, didn’t we? Newsflash, doctors! We simply cannot do it all on our own, not while maintaining a profitable practice and a healthy work-life balance.
I’m asking you to think back to kindergarten…. Do you remember what it felt like? Do you remember getting stuck at the top of a slide or being unable to tie your shoelaces or forgetting how to get to the bathroom? What did you do? You asked a friend.
Somehow, in this new “grown-up world”, we have lost track of this important Kindergarten lesson for dentists: Ask a Friend.
When I survived my near-fatal heart attack at 41, I was forced to lean on others to help me maintain my dental practice and re-engineer my life. I had to ask a friend. I had no other choice! At that point in my life, instead of feeling defeated that I had to ask for help, I was reminded that even the Lone Ranger had Tonto.
Here are times when you need to Ask a Friend in your Dental Practice:
- You need to know what your patients expect in terms of service – ask your team
- You need to create systems for profitability in your dental practice – ask your accountant
- You need to raise your kids with strong values – ask your spouse
- You need to run your business with responsibility and accountability – ask your coach
- You need to know what is really most important – ask yourself
To think that you can do it all on your own is a deadly mistake. Don’t make it!
Have you “Asked a Friend” lately?
How did that turn out for you? Please share your story by posting a comment here.